Hello summer!!! Ever have one of those days where your head is literally spinning? I have. Had one just the other day. I had woken up late because I couldn't sleep the night before. I spent the rest of the day keeping kids from bugging each other, doing morning chores (and getting kids to help), taking out the trash, cleaning the kitchen, doing laundry, etc.
As I walked into my office to finally sit down and get some work done, I almost lost my mind.
One of my adorable little monkeys had taken off the cap for the White Out and left it laying on its side. On top of papers I was working on. On top of my grandfather's desk which had been refinished by my father shortly before he passed. It pooled in a giant white cloud, and had dripped in splatters EVERYWHERE on my wood floor underneath.
Flash-forward an hour and a half later: After using every possible stain remover and ending up on my hands and knees scraping the floor to remove those stupid little white dots, I'm now swearing at all of the stupid little white dots all over me. Now I need to shower. Wait, when was my last shower? I can't remember, but It can wait.
Fly to grocery store. Get in loud disagreement with manager of deceased husband's storage unit, come home, put dinner in crockpot, clean kitchen, send a few emails, organize son's upcoming birthday. Son loses tooth. Wait! I didn't even know he HAD a wiggly tooth! Oh crap! Tooth Fairy's going to have to write an IOU.
Just a typical day in the life of a mom. Lord it's exhausting!!! I can't think straight much less manage my emotions very well. By the end of the day, all I want to do is send kids to bed early so I can relax in peace and quiet.
How often do you feel like this? I know I'm not the only mom whose had these moments of feeling absolutely frazzled! In the midst of all our running around and looking after, too many of us don't make the time to take proper care of ourselves. This is a huge mistake!
When we neglect ourselves- mind, body and spirit, when we neglect our own well-being, we adversely affect ourselves, and are distracted from being the better moms we all wish to be.
Being a mom is one of the HARDEST jobs in the world, and to do the job well, we need to invest in ourselves.
When you haven’t practiced self-care for a while, you feel empty and exhausted. Making the split second decision to get angry is harder to avoid.
Investing in our own self-care is s a way to get our lives back in balance. When we feel more balanced, our households are much happier places.
Potentially upsetting incidents are less likely to become full-fledged disasters because we feel rested and grounded — so we can take a deep breath and respond with kindness and love. We are also likely be more resilient on a physical level. When we’re rested and "de-stressed", we're less likely to get sick — and feel better overall.
You are constantly doing things for other people. Do something for yourself, something you love, and practice self-care. And take some time away to do it!!!! No kids to look after. No dinners to cook. No work deadlines to attend to.
Just you. As a result, you will be happier, and more authentic. Moms who pay attention to their own physical, mental, social, emotional, spiritual needs are much better able to nurture the needs of their children and husbands.
Sounds easy, but finding the time to practice self-care can be difficult. Remember that in order to be a better mom, wife, fill-in-the- blank, YOU NEED TO RELAX. Make it a priority. You will appreciate the time you make for yourself, and ultimately, so will everyone else around you.
I would love to invite you to come and relax, refresh and recharge at our "Frazzled to Dazzled" Pampering and Coaching Mini-Retreat for Busy Women June 25th and 26th at the Face & Body Bar in Winter Springs, FL, Please click here for more info.